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Friday, April 1, 2011

who, behind which window?

in The Unbearable Lightness of Being when Sabina asks Tomas what it is he is after with women, he replies, Maybe the very smallest...unimaginable details...tiny things that make one woman totally unlike any other.
 



i wonder just how much it is that distinguishes one person from the next, or how little.


6 comments:

  1. Ohhhh!One of my favorite lines, in a favorite book. I always wondered if that's how women see men too.

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  2. i wonder if it's how we all see one another? or instead of it being one small thing that differentiates us is it a series of minutiae that makes us who we are? and are we only that, minutiae, a spill of variable factors? it's kind of unsettling when i begin to think of how many people there are in the world and that there must be just slightly tweaked variations of me out there. however, i can not but believe in our utter uniqueness, no matter the core. and so then i begin to wonder on that, the core, if it exists or not.

    don't you wonder about the lives behind windows like this? so many windows in the world.

    i've not read the book and should, as the movie was rather surprisingly full of holes for me.

    xo
    erin

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  3. Read the book! If i start thinking about it, I melt away. What kept me sane during my 'principal's role' was the core of me, the part of me that I couldn't change even if I wanted to. That part of me always asked, did you decide on this case so you had less work, or fewer responsibilities, or what?

    You see, decisions of this sort, make you scratch at every door in your soul. Yes, we have a core that gets scratched and humbled now and then, gets kicked out of shape, now and then, but it keeps showing up.

    It's what makes us like what we are. Deep inside, we tell ourselves, I'm as good as I can be today, right now, with what I know.

    Yes, I wonder about every one I meet, every life that is not mine. I worry, are these folks full of longing as I am? What do they long for? What is unfulfilled in their lives?

    I read each book with that question, as I think of it. What do we really want?

    No wonder religion is so popular; it gives us easy answers.

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  4. ah, rosaria, yes! i laugh. religion gives us easy answers. and isn't that funny! ohmygod. and what we do at the hand of it, this simple solution. how many lives are destroyed even around this, our laziest of philosophies!

    so, i still don't know, is everyone as full of longing as i am? now i only know that you and i are:)

    it is so wonderful to share with you.

    xo
    erin

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  5. Huh- that book reminded me of John Updike. He always focused on the details as a sexual turn on. Except Rabbit had a tendency to reduce things to these small parts and miss the whole in the process it seemed.

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  6. I've not read the book yet, only saw the movie and the movie came up short. I wish I was a faster reader. Ten pages a night doesn't get me very far very fast, but I've a few reads on my list, this being one of them. I don't believe I've read Updike either. Ohhhh, I'm such a miserable reader.

    xo
    erin

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